Saturday, September 3, 2022

ANWERING THE CALL: LESSONS FROM THE THRESHOLD

 NEXT STORY SANCTUARY

"Anwering the Call: Lessons from the Threshold"
Sept. 20, 7 pm eastern
$30
Online
Whether you're starting a project, a school year, a new season, or a new phase of life after grievous loss or disruption, you're at the archetypal Threshold.
This session will focus on the lessons, pitfalls, and possibilities of beginnings. It will be animated by my own living threshold as I prepare to fly to Lisbon Oct. 1 to begin what I hope is my journey to permanent residency in Portugal.
As I will be following the thresholds of my book in progress, "A Write of Passage," for the foreseea
ble future, the upcoming sessions may be more "instructional" than the mostly conversational sessions you may be used to, but still with a relevant story or poem and creative prompt, and adequate time to share and be witnessed in your own journey. As always, I'll follow the path as it emerges.
Write me at julietbrucephd@gmail.com if you're interested but want to learn more, or register here: paypal.me/julietbrucephd
I'll send the link a few days before and again on the 20th.

Friday, July 8, 2022

HOW TO FIGHT FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS WITH EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT STORYTELLING: A LESSON FROM ZELENSKY

David Meets Goliath by Dan Craif
This is precisely the time when artists go to work. There is no time for despair, no place for self-pity, no need for silence, no room for fear. We speak, we write, we do language. That is how civilizations heal. 

I know the world is bruised and bleeding, and though it is important not to ignore its pain, it is also critical to refuse to succumb to its malevolence. Like failure, chaos contains information that can lead to knowledge - even wisdom. Like art.

 —Toni Morrison


No matter how bad things look, every story is essentially a call to action.

Whether implied or direct, the dramatic story arc of crisis, struggle, and transformation, with its conflicts, knots of tension, and their release, ignites an internal energy that ultimately demands external manifestation. Often it’s the quietest voices who have the most power, even in this world where noise often obstructs substance. It’s because they usually tell authentic stories that may begin in traumatic circumstance, but hold a vision of possibilities. Their story reflects a rising energy that transcends pain.

I’ve seen this enlivening pattern replay over and over in my story sanctuaries for the last 29 years. Cancer patients have entered  disconsolate, written and shared their story within the container of the classic heroine’s journey plot, been compassionately witnessed, and as a result, moved to take life-affirming actions: a woman held a gratitude dinner for all the people in her neighborhood and church who supported her family during treatment, another returned to her first love of being a midwife after working in a pro-choice clinic for years, yet another learned how strong her marriage was. In another group, teens with HIV/AIDS bonded as a community, started holding each other to the ritual of taking their medications, and supported one another’s new aspirations. One young woman transformed over a period of months from a drug-addictd prostitute to telling her story at a Magic Johnson event, and applying for college. There are so man others -- too many to mention here.

It happens, I believe, through the process of telling a deeper story about ouselves than the one we constantly hear, based on the old stories, and through the process of being compassionately witnessed. Held in the container of story sanctuary, timid voices grow stronger; shattered personalities begin to knit together, identities begin to transform from victim to a process of becoming who we really are.

It’s in telling our deep story that holds both our shadow reality and our highest vision that we meet our transformational moment.

One of the foundational story plots that has the most transformative impact on our lives is the David and Goliath plot, sometimes called Rags to Riches, although its not about material gain. Someone considered small and insignificant meets their moment, steps up to challenge the evil force oppressing the land, whether literal or metaphorical, and reveals qualities never before exhibited, slaying the monster and freeing the land.

Everywhere in our world are examples of the power of story told by an ordinary person to help us create a generative world for all beings. Whether through the tale of the small David slaying the mighty Goliath, a young woman quietly telling her story to a Congressional committee and destroying the monster, a comedian-turned-president giving voice to the sovereignty of an invaded nation, or you and I overcoming the obstacles that present themselves to block our way forward, story holds it all – the difficult present, the heavy-handed past, and the possibilities for a better future ready to emerge from the shadows.


How a comedian called the world to action

Volodymyr Zelensky was a comedian, film producer, and champion of Dancing with the Stars when he was elected president of Ukraine in 2019. Elected to fight Ukraine’s tradition of political corruption, he gained fame early as a neophyte leader who nevertheless stood up to US President Donald J. Trump’s attempt to force him into lambasting Hunter Biden, when Joe Biden was on his way to the Democratic candidacy. Besides this momentary event, Zelensky was a disappointment, and not popular as 2022 began. In addition to everything else, he downplayed U.S. intelligence reports that Russian demagoge Vladimir Putin was preparing to invade Ukraine without provocation.

On February 24, the Russian Army invaded eastern Ukraine

With that, Zelensky’s defining moment had arrived. Rather than doing the expected thing: leaving his country immediately and issuing patriotic calls to resistance from exile, Zelensky stayed. “I need a weapon, not a ride,” he declared to U.S. offers to help him escape. With those words, he stepped up to a new role in a new story. transformed himself into a people's leader. He took off his suit and tie and donned military fatigues, moved into a Kyiv bunker, and began to tell the Ukrainian story in grainy self-produced videos from the streets, bombed out towns, his face reflecting the stress of war. So doing, he captured the heroic imagination of the world, rallied the Ukrainian people to fight the invaders, and galvanized the support of most of the world. 

Here are some of the elements of Zelensky's effective advocacy for his country that have lessons for us in our ordinary lives:

  • He has personalized the war as a family man separated from his family and in danger of assassination. We resonate with him as we do with the protagonist of a meaningful story.
  • His video stories follow the classic story arc of crisis, struggle, and transformation, This archetypal plot is a call to action because it ignites the listeners' internal energy, which demands manifestation in the external world.
  • An actor, he knows how to live into a role. A performer, he knows how to tell a story. A producer, he knows how to use video to reflect the moment. It’s the storyteller Zelensky that has captured the world's imagination.
  • He describes honestly what is happening on the ground, not flinching from the bloody struggle of the Ukrainian people to persevere and to protect Europe’s eastern flank from Russian aggression.
  • At the same time, he holds out a vision of a stalwart Ukraine as a member nation of NATO and the EU, which has welcomed its candidacy, ending most of his videos with a vision of Ukraine rebuilt and functioning as a contemporary world leader. It's the combination of authentic narration of circumstances, combined with a personalized journey, culminating in an inspired but doable vision that is the call to action.
  • Speaking to governments, he frames the story to touch their national values and concerns; for example framing the Ukraine situaiton in terms of fighting for liberty and sovereignty in his speech to the US Congress early in the war. To European governments, he captured the fear of Russian aggression and the return of a Hitler-like demagogue. To Africans, he is preparing to speak to the famine now being aggravated by the Russian blockade of Ukraine's ports.  
  • He adapts his story to not only to the concerns of the audience, but to the need of the moment. As the war drags on, and “Ukraine fatigue” threatens, his message is to continue -- possibly the most enduring quality of heroism. "We are still here,” he said in a video produced on the 100th day of the war. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Us34HFdi0R8h
  • To the Ukrainian people, he tells the true stories of their heroism, sacrifice, and determination, which transcend the rubble in which they stand.
  • Beyond all of these elements, Zelensky is consistent, showing up with a new video every day.       -   

     

     What can you learn from Zelensky? 

Authenticity, vision, consistency -- the elements of powerful, non-violent advocacy.

What is the situation and the challenge  that faces you or your allies? 

What is the vision or possibility that keeps you going?

To whom are you telling your story and what are their primary concerns?

What do you need to fulfill your mission, save your or another's life, live to tell a new story?

Footnote: Our lives are shaped by the stories we hear as children. Children’s bedtime stories in Ukraine are about underdogs and psychologists surmise that they have shaped the spirit of defiance. On the other hand, Russian fairy tales promote magical thinking. They often tell of a miracle in which humans eare saved by an external forcem, such  as a magical being that intervenes to save the protagonist, or to guide them to safety.https://theconversation.com/amp/how-fairy-tales-shape-fighting-spirit-ukraines-children-hear-bedtime-stories-of-underdog-heroes-while-russian-children-hear-tales-of-magical-success-179630

Tuesday, June 14, 2022

THE ENLIGHTENED WARRIOR

 Next Story Sanctuary

The Enlightened Warrior – Telling Emotionally Intelligent Stories to Advocate for Yourself and Others
Sunday, June 26, 5-6:30 EDT online
$25
This is small, curated, and interactive session. Come to write or just to listen. Register with a few words about why you’d like to attend and your e-mail address for the Zoom and PayPal links. julietbrucephd@gmail.
This session builds on Part 1 of the series, “Translating Your Life Experience Into Srory," which focused on the two man qualities of healing story: Truth and Transcendence. This session is intended to help you bring your story to serve your world through constructing a narrative framework that connects personal and collective healing. Following in this series are sessions on the Five Elements of my Write of Passage approach: Time (its many layers), Setting/Emotional Quality (physical and metaphorical), Characters (inner and outer), Situation (conflicts and challenges), and Emerging Plot (possibilities inherent in the present context, giving story its dynamic character).
Men (and non-binary folks) most welcome! The Divine Feminine, which propels my Story Sanctuaries, as well as my Living Story practice, is an energy, not a gender.

The combined inspiration for this session is 1) my 29 years of facilitating healing story for people yearning to give voice in a non-harming way to their experience, no matter how difficult; 2) the archetypal tales that served as a scaffold out of depression many years ago toward my passionate purpose in life; and 3) President Volodymyr Zelensky's use of authentic story and scene to rally the world to Ukraine's aid.
Image: Warrior Woman Rising: Dance of the Divine Feminine

Saturday, May 28, 2022

MAINTAINING BALANCE WITH THE SOFT POWER OF THE MYTHIC IMAGINATION

What is life asking of me now? I ask in the wake of Uvalde.

Oh my God! The police waited for backup outside while the shooter remained inside for an hour killing children! Republican officials call for MORE GUNS! Money pours into the NRA after murders of children, and the show goes on this weekend at its convention in Texas. The Russian army may be making a comeback in Eastern Ukraine. The earth continues to die, black and brown people continue to be harrassed and killed. The NYC subways are now scenes of carnage. It's overwhelming to be a witness to life.

I do my best to stay sane and carry on with my good work, as I know you do. We are the ones who know that when institutions fall, people rise. It's on us.

But how?

What helps me most is to acknowledge the horror in which we are living, remember the quiet voice of Thich Nhat Hanh -- no mud, no lotus, he constantly reminded -- and to come back to the story questions:

What is trying to emerge here? A new reality.

What is being asked of me? Choose love, do my work, continue to pay attention.

What do I need to do it? Become centered in slow deep breathing, ask for courage, go back to story, carry on.

Standing Firm with a Soft Heart through Healing Story tomorrow, May 29, 5-6:30 pm EDT online, no charge. A quiet moment in a noisy world to bear witness to yourself and others. For the link: julietbrucephd@gmail.com. To keep the group small and safe, please tell me in a sentence or two why you want to come.

“Furthermore, we have not even to risk the adventure alone, for the heroes of all time have gone before us. The labyrinth is thoroughly known. We have only to follow the thread of the hero path, and where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a god. And where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves. Where we had thought to travel outward, we will come to the center of our own existence. And where we had thought to be alone, we will be with all the world."

Joseph Campbell, The Hero with a Thousand Faces



Wednesday, May 25, 2022

STANDING FIRM WITH A SOFT HEART IN THE FACE OF SAVAGERY

On this Memorial Day week-end, we in the U.S. have fresh sorrows to mourn. Once the immediate shock has

passed, grief can be understood as the ground of initiation into a better life, for both individuals and communities.

I'm going to refocus this previously schedueld Story Sanctuary on Sunday into a refuge for expressing your grief over this latest school shooting in Uvalde, TX in healthy ways. I trust that the healing story process I offer will eventually ripple out through families, classrooms, community centers, churches and temples -- everywhere that we gather.

This experiential workshop is free and online. It's curated to keep it safe for all participants. If you would like to join us, whether to share your own story or just to listen, please write me at julietbrucephd@gmail.com. In a sentence or two tell me why you're interested.

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STEADY AS SHE GOES
What is healing story and how to apply it to a time of difficult change in life.

This Story Sanctuary is an introduction to a series on applying the elements of story to threshold times. Following sessions will focus on time, setting and ambiance, characters, situation, and plot.

Your story matters.

Sunday, May 29
5-6:30 pm eastern

A free experiential introduction to the power of living life through a story lens

Write me to register: julietbrucephd@gmail.com


Image: steering the mythic passage between Scylla (rage and resentment) and Charybdis (depression and despair) on the way to the Golden Fleece

#healingstory #massshooting #caringcommunity #therapeuticwriting #griefasinitiation

Tuesday, May 10, 2022

What Makes a Healing Story? Guidance from a Master

An experiential teaching

            "Listen, Paula, I am going to tell you a story, so that when you wake up you will not feel so lost."

            So begins Isabel Allende’s unforgettable 1995 memoir "Paula, A Memoir," written two years after her daughter’s death. In it, Isabel sits next to the bedside of her daughter Paula in a Madrid hospital, where Paula lies in a coma from porphyria, a fatal brain disease. The plot of this book encompasses Isabel’s own metaphorical death and renewal as she watches her daughter decline over the next year and a half and finally die. But within this grim plot, a vibrant non-linear collage of a family’s history emerges -- hilarious, tragic, loving, fighting, giving birth to new generations, and filled with all the shades and rhythms of life ever-transforming.

            The story opens with the visual image of Isabel sitting alone with her unconscious daughter in the clinical atmosphere of a strange hospital. This image portrays such a depth of loneliness that is almost unbearable. If you have found yourself alone and lost in the wilds of grief you may instinctively feel the loneliness of that mother at her daughter’s bedside.

            What did this master storyteller do? She began to spin a story in the air over Paula’s bed, the story of their family.

            In the following pages, we sit with Isabel at the bedside of her comatose daughter as a mesmerizing story unfolds: that of the Allende family across generations and continents; the story of Isabel herself -- wife, mother, journalist, human rights advocate, and the story of a mother's dream that her daughter will take her place once again among her family against the bleak reality of the bed her child will never leave.

            In Paula, Allende shows us how to move through devastating loss. She writes not what we commonly think of as a linear story, but as a swirling depiction of a family's life, held together not by chronological time but by memories, energetic vibrations, and metaphorical associations. Her story is a passionate recreation of a world that holds everything she remembers, fears, and hopes for: past, present, future, despair, good, evil — creating a whole beyond fragments, a sum greater than its parts, coherence in a shattered world. And so, rather than leading her daughter back to life, she helps to guide her to a peaceful death.

            The narrative frame that holds this collage together takes place over a year and a half in human terms, as Isabel refuses and finally surrenders her daughter to death. Failing to save her daughter, she writes to sing herself back into life. In these pages, she tells a story of a love so great that it transcends death. This ultimately is why human beings tell stories: to overcome death.

            Story naturally transforms, like nature itself. In fact, story gives human voice to an archetypal process that we witness each year in the death and renewal of nature as it flowers, wilts and dies, roots more deeply in the earth, and pushes forth again with new sprouts and new blossoms. Like nature, story takes us though times of real or metaphorical death to rebirth.

            The last page of Allende's memoir holds the inevitable uplift in the face of life’s awesome realities, which all good stories contain. Her language has moved from images of enclosure, from frozen frightened faces and ever more desperate watching and holding into a new language: slower, spacious, and filled with the freshness of nature, where all is well and the only thing that can be counted on is change.

"She began to rise, and I with her, clinging to the cloth of her dress. ... Outside, it was already dawn; the sky was streaked with gold and the countryside beneath our feet gleamed, washed by a recent rain. We flew over valleys and hills, and finally descended into a forest of ancient redwoods, where a breeze rustled among the branches and a bold bird defied winter with its solitary song. Paula pointed to the stream; I saw fresh roses lying along its banks and a white power of calcined bones on the bottom, and I heard the music of thousands of voices whispering among the trees.... "

            When everything in us wants to stand mute with suffering, if we can give authentic expression to our experience, if we can write, tell, dance, draw, or sing that story, it will take on its own voice and teach us how to live again.

          What if you started a piece of expressive writing with this? “Listen, friend, I want to tell you a story so that you won’t feel so lost and alone, and so that you will feel the warmth and light at the heart of your own being?"

c/ Juliet Bruce, PhD, 2022 -- a sidebar from my book in progress, in the chapter on how to be a healing storyteller